Rub-A-Dub-Dub ... Escorts In A Tub

One night, after partying together at a South Carolina gay bar—and yes, there are gay bars in South Carolina … or there is gay bar … I digress—three men went out for a little, um, hot tub fun.

Eighteen-year-old Austin Adams [below right] and 33-year-old Michael Gordon [below center] went together to that Spartanburg nightclub, where they met 21-year-old Douglas Tench [below left], who had come down from Charlotte to go to a gay club in Spartanburg.

After several drinks Tench left  with Adams and Gordon, for a home Boiling Springs—and the hot tub in Boling Springs … you cannot make this stuff up—where Gordon was dog sitting; the three men began to, ahem, “enjoy each other’s company” in said hot tub. But the party ended when the three men started to quarrel … over which one was the higher paid escort.

Oh, but they did. Adams told the arresting deputy that he “lost control” when Tench “stated he got paid more for his escort services than Adams.” Adams admitted to hitting and kicking Tench while they were in the hot tub before Tench jumped out of the hot tub and ran to a house across the street, where he called a friend who, in turn, dialed 911.

After confessing to assaulting Tench, Adams asked the deputy to “just arrest him and get it done with,” and so he was charged with simple assault; Gordon and Tench were also arrested for providing alcohol to a minor escort.

Lesson to be learned: don’t brag about your escort coins in a hot tub with other escorts?

That’s all I got.

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People Say The Darndest Things

As I scour this internet thingy, I usually come across the occasional quote that I copy and paste into a future blog posting, like, say, ‘I Didn’t Say It …’ — appearing in this space every Friday morning at 10AM EST ... how's that for a plug?

But sometimes I come across a quote so, either hilarious, or stupid, or hilariously stupid, that I cannot save it until Friday; this is one of those times. I came upon this gem by Anthony Morris III, a member of the Governing Body of Jehovah's Witnesses at Towleroad, so let’s rip …

Morris III apparently believes that God Hates … no, not Fags, that’s Westboro, silly … Tight Pants and Spanx, and believes it’s because they are designed by The Gays. So he said this:

"Some of our sisters - what it are these spanx - these skin tight stuff they wear - when they exercise - they leave their home and they're jogging in this stuff. Look at the verse. Is that appropriate to wear skin tight spanx or whatever they call it? It's not modest and it's certainly not sound of mind. It's really not appropriate. There's really nothing else to say about it. Now you want to be in your home or your room and wear that stuff that's your business. But don't go out like that and say you worship the true God."

I guess Anthony Morris III’s God feels that women should hide their bodies? Or maybe he doesn’t want y’all coming to church all spanxed up? But it isn’t just women; Morris III also has a warning for The Men:

"And the other one that needs addressing is for these young fellas, cause the older ones aren't doing much of it thankfully, is the metrosexual look we've addressed that in the past. What's happened now is that it's really caught on more - the tight suit jacket and the tight pants. Better known as tight pants. They are tight all the way down to the ankles. It's not appropriate. It's not sound of mind. … The homosexuals that are designing these clothes - they'd like you in tight pants."

Well, of course we’d like you in tight pants. We’d like to see what we’re getting before we take it home, because, you know, The Gays only care about having ze sex wiz ze mens in our lairs. Or something.

I think Anthony Morris III needs to spend a little less time thinking about fashion, and tight clothes, and perhaps spend a little more time on his knees.

Praying! Get your minds out of the gutter! What would Anthony Morris III say about you!

A Plea Deal Will State That Adrian Peterson Never Beat His Son

If you were sickened by yesterday’s post about the death of eight-year-old Gabriel Fernandez at the hands of his “mother” and her boyfriend — that post is HERE — then this one won’t sit well with you either.

Remember when word got out Vikings running back Adrian Peterson had beaten one of his children with a switch? Well, Peterson was accused of child abuse by the medical examiner — who called the beating, er, as Peterson called it, the whipping, “extreme.” He was subsequently indicted by a Grand Jury in September on charges related to his admitted use of a “switch” to beat his four-year-old son.

The police report included photos of cuts and bruises to the child’s back, buttocks, ankles, legs and scrotum, along with defensive wounds to the boy’s hands — meaning he was trying to stop the beating any way he could.

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On top of the photographic evidence was the fact that Peterson not only admitted to the beating, he even texted the boy’s mother, saying that one wound in particular would make her 'mad at me about his leg. I got kinda good wit the tail end of the switch.'"

Bragging about how good he is at beating a child; that’s a parent, I guess.

And then, when the scandal broke, he showed very little remorse, and, in fact, told a reporter he would never "eliminate whooping my kids . . . because I know how being spanked has helped me in my life."

It helped you grow up to thinking a spanking means bruising and cutting your little boy’s body to an extreme degree.

He also described the incident as a “normal whooping” in regards to the “welps” on the child’s buttocks, but that he felt bad immediately when he saw the injuries on the child’s legs. And he “believes” he whipped his son with the switch “10 to 15” times, but he’s not sure because he doesn’t “ever count how many pops I give my kids.”

Sickening, no? It gets worse.

Now Adrian Peterson has reached an agreement in the case, and will plead no contest to one count of misdemeanor reckless assault; the plea will not include any reference to family violence or violence against a minor meaning it looks like he didn’t beat his own child.

If the agreement is accepted by Judge Kelly Case, Adrian Peterson will pay a $2,000 fine, be placed on probation, and perform 80 hours of community service. 

For beating his son so badly he had to be taken to a hospital.

Adrian Peterson, who beat his child, texted his mother that she might be angry at how bad he beat his child, admitted he gets so caught up in beating his child he has no idea how many times he’s hit the boy, and says he’d do it again, though, maybe next time, without a switch, pleads "no contest," meaning he admits no guilt. He’ll pay a tiny fine — he makes $20 million a year — and there will never be any mention of child abuse, family violence, domestic violence, or violence against a minor on his record. 

But there will be physical and emotional marks on his child for the rest of his life.

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Eric Martin: Bullied and Beaten By Gang Of Students ... And Charged With Assault

A couple of things about yours truly: I know what it’s like to be bullied. I was bullied for being gay — or at least perceived as being gay — all through junior high and high school. I cannot remember a day going by that I wasn’t called “faggot” or “queer.” But luckily for me, if you could consider it luck, the bullying was mostly name-calling and, maybe, the occasional shove in the hallway’ I didn’t have to live with the threat of physical harm, just the still painful verbal taunts which make me shudder even today, decades later.

Another thing about me? I am not a violent person. I have never been in a physical fight in my life; the closest I ever came was one day when my sister was so irate—that girl had a temper—that she tried to slug me; I grabbed both her wrists and basically set her down on the kitchen floor. I don’t fight.

So, I cannot begin to imagine what Eric Martin went through, after years of being called “faggot” and “queer;” years of shoves and taunts and harassment, until, one day, he’d had enough and decided to fight back against those who bullied him.

He fought back against several, several, of his classmates called him names and then beat him into unconsciousness; Eric spent nearly two weeks in the hospital with a traumatic brain injury, multiple contusions and a broken arm.

And finally the school has decided to press charges … against Eric.

Yes, the kid who has been bullied and taunted and name-called since he was a child is being charged as a criminal because he finally stood up for himself.

When are we going to stop letting this happen? When are we, as a community of parents, of bullied students, of allies, going to demand that the schools do something? How many students have to die, have to be beaten, have to be arrested before it’s enough?

We go to school to learn, not berate and abuse those students who seem different; we go to school to study, not to gang up on someone who acts in a way we don’t understand, we don’t like.

The bullies are winning; LGBTQ youth are being harassed to death, unless they fight back, and then they are being charged as criminals.

There is a GoFundMe page set up to help Eric pay his legal bills; bills he’ll have to pay because he was the victim of gang violence and fought back — keep in mind not one of his attackers was hospitalized or hurt during the fight, but Eric himself was in the hospital for six weeks.

There is also a place to send Eric letters of support, to let him know that while his own school, his own teachers, principal and administrators stood by and did nothing for him, that we can stand by him, and support him, and let him know that he is not alone.

We are all Eric Martin.

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Phillip and Sandy Unruh Say Same-Sex Marriage Is Theft Of Opposite-Sex Marriage

The battle for marriage equality, while moving full-steam ahead with more and more states joining in on equality, still has some fights to win, one of them in Kansas.

A lawsuit has been filed in federal court in Kansas seeking to overturn the state’s marriage ban, and that has lead to all sorts of wingnuts crawling out of the woodwork and wading into the fray; like the Westboro Baptist Church [WBC] which is trying to intervene in that case citing fear of God’s wrath if the court rules in favor of the right of gay couples to marry.

The WBC doesn’t seem to realize that marriage in this country is not a religious thing but a civil thing, so they, and God, really have no part in it.

But the WBC isn’t the only kind of crazy stepping forward to fight equality. No, let’s throw in Kansas criminal and family lawyer, Phillip Unruh, and his wife Sandy, who filed suit to join the battle to keep The Gays from marrying because they say that allowing same-sex marriage is “theft of property rights” — the  property being their marriage, or any other opposite-sex marriage in general.

In a motion filed in United States District Court, the Unruh's say that if same-sex couples are legally allowed to marry in Kansas, "the meaning of marriage will be so fundamentally and profoundly changed that the Unruh’s will experience a taking of their property rights in marriage without due process of law.”

Huh? Of course, in addition to calling their marriage property — and I guess that means Phillips owns Sandy — the Unruhs have also trotted out the Bible references, like Genesis 2:24, and that age old argument that only straight folks can marry because only straight couples can produce children which is the sole intent of marriage.

Huh; I guess the Unruhs aren’t aware that men and women, married to one another and unmarried to one another, gay and straight, have been producing children for thousands of years.

The Unruhs also claim that same-sex marriage and opposite-sex marriage are as different "as apples and oranges," and claim property rights under the Fifth and Fourteenth Amendments to the U.S. Constitution:

“The Unruhs have a [sic] inalienable property right in their marriage that is protected by the 5th Amendment of the United States Constitution, the Kansas Constitution and related Kansas Statutes."

They also have an inalienable right to not understanding grammar or spelling, as is evidenced by this other little snippet from their lawsuit:

If I were the judge reading this argument, my first ruling would be to give it a grade of C and ask them to try again when they learn proper English. But I’m not the judge in this case; that would be U.S. District Judge Daniel Crabtree who ruled last week Phillip Unruh and his wife Sandra, have no legal right to join the lawsuit.

Crabtree concluded the Unruhs’ interests are already represented by the Kansas attorney general’s office, which is defending the ban, so maybe they should just sit down. He did, however, say that although they cannot be parties in the suit, they could write an amicus brief, meaning their opinion would be heard.

The Unruhs began writing that brief Sunday morning and let’s hope they busted out the dictionary.

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Two Cases Of Bullying ... Two Ridiculous Outcomes

We’ve heard all the stories about students bullying other students; pushing, shoving, taunting, teasing, beatings; we’ve heard it all. And we’ve heard of teachers who bully students, or allow the bullying of one student by another to continue, but this is a new one … A teacher has been fired because she refused to let a bunch of viciously racist kids bully a black student. Pam Aister had been a teacher at Four Peaks Elementary School for 25 years has been fired because she refused to let a gang of racist kids bully a black student. That’s right; she stopped the bullies and lost her job in the process. It all began when Aister was at the school, as a group of students surrounded their “target,” and like any good teacher, like most of us think teachers should be, she stepped in to stop the abuse. “He was called the n-word, ‘monkey,’ and ‘coon' and [I said] if you’re picking on him, you’re picking on me. It’s not five against one, it’s five against two, and there will be no more taunting, teasing or racial names.” — Pam Aister That’s how it should be right? That’s what we expect of those who teach our children, right? Well, apparently not the parents of those racist punk kids at Four Peaks Elementary because they called to complain about Pam Aister getting their children in trouble; some say she even threatened their little darlings. The parents of these racist students claim that Aister had the nerve to tell the bullies to “shut up” — you know, stop with the racist names; that’s what they’re complaining about. In the end, Pam Aister was fired; the racist kids were not punished. A twenty-five year career ruined because some parents don't like teachers reprimanding their little racists.  It seems sickening, doesn’t it, but let me remind you that this happened in Arizona, not exactly known for its “live and let live” attitudes; this, after all, is the same state that once refused to recognize Martin Luther King Day and recently passed a law legalizing racial profiling. Arizona, where it’s sunny and hate-filled, I’m guessing. But is it what the people of Arizona really want? Do they want teachers fired for standing up for a bullied child? Do they want racist punks running roughshod in freaking elementary schools? Pam Aister should be back in the classroom as soon as possible, and those racist punks and their idiotic parents should all be making phone calls and driving around looking for another school because they clearly do not belong in a public school system. Maybe the KKK has an educational program for these punks and their racist parents.

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We’ve heard all the stories about students bullying other students; pushing, shoving, taunting, teasing, beatings; we’ve heard it all. And we’ve heard of teachers who bully students, or allow the bullying of one student by another to continue, but this is a new one …

A teacher has been fired because she refused to let a bunch of viciously racist kids bully a black student.

Pam Aister had been a teacher at Four Peaks Elementary School for 25 years has been fired because she refused to let a gang of racist kids bully a black student.

That’s right; she stopped the bullies and lost her job in the process.

It all began when Aister was at the school, as a group of students surrounded their “target,” and like any good teacher, like most of us think teachers should be, she stepped in to stop the abuse.

“He was called the n-word, ‘monkey,’ and ‘coon' and [I said] if you’re picking on him, you’re picking on me. It’s not five against one, it’s five against two, and there will be no more taunting, teasing or racial names.” — Pam Aister

That’s how it should be right? That’s what we expect of those who teach our children, right?

Well, apparently not the parents of those racist punk kids at Four Peaks Elementary because they called to complain about Pam Aister getting their children in trouble; some say she even threatened their little darlings. The parents of these racist students claim that Aister had the nerve to tell the bullies to “shut up” — you know, stop with the racist names; that’s what they’re complaining about.

In the end, Pam Aister was fired; the racist kids were not punished. A twenty-five year career ruined because some parents don't like teachers reprimanding their little racists. 

It seems sickening, doesn’t it, but let me remind you that this happened in Arizona, not exactly known for its “live and let live” attitudes; this, after all, is the same state that once refused to recognize Martin Luther King Day and recently passed a law legalizing racial profiling.

Arizona, where it’s sunny and hate-filled, I’m guessing.

But is it what the people of Arizona really want? Do they want teachers fired for standing up for a bullied child? Do they want racist punks running roughshod in freaking elementary schools?

Pam Aister should be back in the classroom as soon as possible, and those racist punks and their idiotic parents should all be making phone calls and driving around looking for another school because they clearly do not belong in a public school system.

Maybe the KKK has an educational program for these punks and their racist parents.

And then there's this .... Eric Martin, a fourteen-year old Virginia boy, has been beaten and bullied, called “gay” and a “faggot” too many times, and finally, one day, when at least four other students began to beat him again, he’d had enough and he fought back. And now he’s being charged with two counts of assault — he allegedly threw the first punch — and school officials are refusing to allow him back into school until he signs a statement saying he threatened the school, something he says he didn’t do, and something that the school cannot prove. After his beating at the hands of those four thugs, Eric was hospitalized for nine days due to a possible broken arm, a concussion, and because, after the beating he is on suicide watch. And all because some students think he’s gay and cannot handle that. Mary Martin, Eric’s mother, admits that he threw the first punch, but says he was a victim of bullying, of constantly being called one gay slur after anther until he’d had enough and fought back. "He's got bruises all down the spine of his back where he was just slammed on that table. … When I try to call the school, and I try to get answers they just blow me off. They don't want to talk to me." The school also sent an email to parents saying the incident is being dealt with according to their established policies and procedures which seems to be a zero tolerance policy, but if Eric has endured the name-calling and the taunts and the bullying, it’s not quite “zero tolerance” is it? I hope the school investigates, and I hope they see that this was a case of four students attacking one student, and just because he fought back — he did get one hit in on a boy — does that mean those other four boys get to beat him so badly he was hospitalized? Something is wrong when the victim is the one being punished … again.

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Eric's family has started a campaign, Letters for Eric, to show him some support, and if you’d like to write to him, here’s how:

Letters for Eric

P.O.Box 993

Sandston, Va. 23150

And then there's this ....

Eric Martin, a fourteen-year old Virginia boy, has been beaten and bullied, called “gay” and a “faggot” too many times, and finally, one day, when at least four other students began to beat him again, he’d had enough and he fought back.

And now he’s being charged with two counts of assault — he allegedly threw the first punch — and school officials are refusing to allow him back into school until he signs a statement saying he threatened the school, something he says he didn’t do, and something that the school cannot prove.

After his beating at the hands of those four thugs, Eric was hospitalized for nine days due to a possible broken arm, a concussion, and because, after the beating he is on suicide watch.

And all because some students think he’s gay and cannot handle that.

Mary Martin, Eric’s mother, admits that he threw the first punch, but says he was a victim of bullying, of constantly being called one gay slur after anther until he’d had enough and fought back.

"He's got bruises all down the spine of his back where he was just slammed on that table. … When I try to call the school, and I try to get answers they just blow me off. They don't want to talk to me."

The school also sent an email to parents saying the incident is being dealt with according to their established policies and procedures which seems to be a zero tolerance policy, but if Eric has endured the name-calling and the taunts and the bullying, it’s not quite “zero tolerance” is it?

I hope the school investigates, and I hope they see that this was a case of four students attacking one student, and just because he fought back — he did get one hit in on a boy — does that mean those other four boys get to beat him so badly he was hospitalized?

Something is wrong when the victim is the one being punished … again.

Random Musings

I’ve got several things to rant about so I decided it break it up with a triple dose of eye candy because, well, it’s my blog, dammit!

I am so tired of those so-called religious leaders, the so-called “Christians” saying that any kind of law or executive or marriage ban struck down is discrimination against people of faith.

It’s not; it’s anti-discrimination, and if people of faith still wanna hate the gays, please go right ahead and do so. But know that the time for passing laws against me simply because of whom I love is over.

So, I’ve been watching Power on Starz; it’s about a drug lord trying to go straight and stars the delicious Omari Hardwick … hee hee ... hardwick. But this week I began noticing the club manager, Kantos, played by the oh-so-delicious Adam Huss.

Eye.Candy.

Some fabulous news? Neil Patrick Harris just might appear on next season’s American Horror Story: Freak Show. Do not play with me Ryan Murphy; I want some NPH in my AHS!

The WTF news? Glee star Lea Michele has been lobbying to be a part of American Horror Story for a few years now. Do not play with me Ryan Murphy; I do not want Lea in my AHS!

Rick Santorum has said he might run for President in 2016 … Michele Bachmann has said she might run in 2016 … Rick Perry is posturing like he wants in the race, too.

Man, that is gonna be one tight squeeze in the GOP clown car.

Also on the Man Candy Tube is a new show called Rush about a brilliant doctor who has personality issues and maybe a wee bit of a drug problem. Think House on coke.

But it does star the delicious … I seem to use that word a lot … Welsh actor Tom Ellis, all smoldering eyes and luscious lips.

Just sayin’.

Back to a rant ….

CBS has announced that on the next, and thankfully final, season of Two And a Half Men, stars Ashton Kutcher and Jon Cryer will get married so that they can adopt a child together.

Apparently Kutcher's character will have a health scare that leads to a search for meaning and results in a desire to have a child of his own. But since it’s oh so hard to adopt a child as a single straight man he opts to fake-marry his roommate played by Cryer.

Note to CBS: this has already been done, badly, in I Now Pronounce You Chuck and Larry. Plus, it offends me that you make a mockery of the LGBT struggle to both legally marry and legally adopt a child.

Here’s a thought you may have never had: howsabout a show about a gay couple and their adopting a child? Failing that, cancel that ridiculous show already.

Last, but oh so definitely not least, we have Satisfaction, on the USA network following Rush. It’s the story of a married man who, upon finding out his wife is having sex with an escort, becomes an escort himself.

Yeah, farfetched, but the husband is played by the delicious … there’s that word again … Aussie actor Matt Passmore.

Beefy dirty blond.

Good news and a rant? 

Okay … according to a recently published AMA study, over the last decade new HIV infections have dropped by over 30%; a decline seen in all demographics except young gay and bisexual men. 

Seriously? The gay community has been decimated by HIV/AIDS and some of us still haven’t learned about protection?

Get it together fellas!

When I first heard this story — that the New York Giants had hired former player David Tyree — I thought, Who cares?

Oh, I knew he was a big anti-marriage equality foe. In the summer of 2011, Tyree claimed that if New York passed same-sex marriage, it would "be the beginning of our country’s sliding toward, you know, it’s a strong word, but anarchy." He also said, “two men will never be able to show a woman how to be a woman" — whatever that means — and then tossed this one on the fire:

“How can marriage be marriage for thousands of years and now all the sudden because a minority, an influential minority, has a push or an agenda and totally reshapes something that was not founded in our country, not founded by man, something that’s holy or sacred?”

Well, people were outraged that the Giants hired him and, as I said, I thought, Who cares? I mean, do we really want every single person on the planet who is against same-sex marriage or LGBT rights to be denied employment? I’m not; I don’t mind people having different points of view, just don’t use yours to legislate against me. But then …. I heard that Tyree will be the Giants’ new Director of Player Development, a position described by Giants Coach Tom Coughlin as such:

“Player engagement has become extremely important in any franchise,” Coughlin said. “It is the working relationship with the players to aid them in their continuing education, their development as young men, the opportunities in the business world and in networking in the city that they happen to be playing in. It is there to help instruct them, make them aware of the issues and the problems that exist out in the community and the world to try to keep them focused on their job and not fall into trouble."

In other words, Tyree, an anti-gay marriage activist and born-again Christian will serve as a mentor to new NFL Giants players. Now, I’m pissed off!

Colorado … and the march goes on.

On a personal level, here in South Carolina, last September Katherine Bradacs and Tracie Goodwin filed a federal lawsuit challenging the South Carolina Defense of Marriage Law and a 2006 Amendment to the State Constitution that expressly banned same-sex marriages—see my original post HERE. Two attorneys — Carrie Warner and John Nichols—are donating their time and efforts to represent these women because they believe in  the equality of all South Carolina citizens under the law and that we should value people who want to live in a committed relationships regardless of gender.

The Further-Round-The-Way-Gays, David and Neal, and Carlos and I, have been invited to attend a meeting next week with these two women and the lawyers to discuss possible ways to support the effort and bring marriage equality to South Carolina.

Yes, I said South Carolina.